Having a discussion with a friend today motivated me to write about this topic…something I have wanted to do for a long time. This is not just about Jake, and please take no offense. This is real and raw…not directed at anyone. And you may think your kid is empathetic, but you may be kidding yourself.
For those kids who are differently abled…they notice. They notice during the weekend they are at home while their friends are out having a good time together. They notice when they hear friends making plans and wishing so much they could be part of that. They notice when someone runs up to someone next to them with arms wide open screaming you are awesome, while they may get a passing “good job”. They notice thanks to social media what everyone else is doing, while they are home watching it…not living it. They don’t understand why…what is wrong with me, why don’t I have that? They notice when kids date and they wonder will I ever have a date? Being differently abled doesn’t mean they are not able to go out or get out. I am betting that if you asked their parents, they would do anything for them to get out and be with friends. The most heart breaking thing you can hear as a parent is this makes me sad, because I can see what is going on, but I can’t be a part of it. Only watching on line and wishing it was me too…they notice. They notice when a game is played with the directions of run up on stage and grab a partner, and by the time they get there no one is left. They notice when the tables at lunch are full of friends talking, while they eat lunch alone. They notice all their friends jumping into a car to go somewhere, while they get to tag along with their parents. They notice people making plans for the future, while they hope for a cure for a life limiting illness. They notice…so please notice them. ❤
On the outside, always looking in
Will I ever be more than I’ve always been?
‘Cause I’m tap, tap, tapping on the glass
Waving through a window
I try to speak, but nobody can hear
So I wait around for an answer to appear
While I’m watch, watch, watching people pass
Waving through a window, oh
Can anybody see, is anybody waving back at me? (oh)
…Dear Evan Hanson